I bring the kids home from a long afternoon of swimming, gymnastics, and meeting friends unexpectedly at the park. Kids collapse onto chairs in the living room, but I know we have to do dinner and pajamas right away. "Kids," I tell them, "either you think of some way to help me or you go get your pajamas on right now." Then I rush off to get Rebecca into pajamas. When I come back, Alex is still sitting in the living room, legs curled under him. "Alex!" I say. "I told you to get your pajamas on or think of some way to help."
"Mom," he says. "I'm still thinking."